How Much Was My Fault?

I tend to do some reflecting during the holidays.  Was thinking about Smart Guy in terms of "how much was my fault" in order to figure out what to do/what not to do with the next guy.  Okay, so he was insecure to begin with and my constant OkC updates probably didn't help.  However, instead of going about it in a polite manner, he just said obnoxious things and acted out a bit.  And, instead of asking me questions like an adult, he assumed things like me having an affair with my married boss (no, I did not do this).

He's selfish, don't think there's much I could have done to "cause" this.  Don't think I could've caused crudeness or inconsideration either.

Another OkC Experiment

A friend sent me this article about another OkC experiment. Basically a lady (I think a lady, it could have been a guy) created a pretty nutty profile of a cute girl in Beverly Hills, CA. Even though the girl seemed like a psychopath based on her profile, lots of guys emails her.  She replied with pretty ridiculous responses and those did not deter some guys!

I guess it's right, guys really care about looks and don't mind crazy?  A guy friend once said, "Do not underestimate what a guy will tolerate for a hot girl." No kidding!

Oh Holidays!

Oh holidays, almost forgot, gross guy that tried to make out with me within two minutes of meeting me texted to say "Hope you had a great Thanksgiving."  I deleted it as soon as I got it.  He thinks holidays are a good time to reach out to girls that rejected him?  Okay, this is actually quite common.

Reminders

I probably shouldn't have continued with Smart Guy because after the sixth or so date, I knew he wasn't the right guy for me (but hoped he was because he was cute and good on paper).  Well, maybe not that good on paper.  I was reminded of several things, the biggest one?  Follow your gut.  Yes, it's fine to go out with a guy twice if you aren't sure, but 10+ times because of chemistry?  Not a good idea. 

Also, once you see his true colors, you know how he really is (so, discount those "good" days, they are not real and shouldn't go on the pro side of your pro/con list).  If you don't want to text/gchat/email for hours, don't feel bad about not replying; if a guy really likes you, he'll contact you again another time.  I actually think when a guy texts for hours it's because he is bored and doesn't have much to do vs him being so very interested.  He probably likes the attention and has nothing better to do.  Pay close attention to how you feel during the date and right after you see  him.  Are you happy or miserable?  Are you relaxed or irritated?

Ever since I stopped talking to the most recent guy, I have been back to my positive and relaxed self.  Think his pessimism and anxiety were rubbing off on me.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!  I'm thankful that I'm not with the wrong guy.  For all the single ladies, you should be thankful for this too!

I've been trying to be more grateful...having cool friends/family, steady employment, enough self respect not to be a doormat, etc.  We all are all lucky and need to remember this.

Get Used To It

I am ignoring Smart Guy again.  He should get used to it.  He contacted me, I did not respond.  I've thought about responding to tell him it's over, but he doesn't deserve official closure (that would be way too nice of me).  And, I don't want to have to explain why I think he is a major self centered dbag. 

Taking a break from dating until Q1 or Q2 2013.  Supposed to see The Brain in a couple of weeks, that should be interesting.  Really don't think I want to restart things with him.

Very Done

I am serious, I am very done with Smart Guy.  Yeah, you probably don't believe me because I have said this (MANY times) before.  Well, when a girl is very done, she is very done.  I am at that point.  He lacks general self awareness and insinuates that I am a slut (95% sure he thinks all women are sluts based on several absolutely ridiculous comments he has made).  That's fine, I'll let him think I am f*cking the world, everyone except for him of course.

Nexting him!