Event

Went to an event.  A 28 year old asked me out.  99% sure he didn't know I was older him.  I said no, but he seems like the persistent type.  65 year old guy also asked me out.  No.

Yes, He Is In The Picture

I've gotten a lot of questions about Smart Guy. Yes, he is in the picture. We actually talk/text/email everyday. Surprisingly, this has not gotten on my nerves.  We have not had another date due to work obligations.  He's the only guy I've found remotely interesting in five years.  Yeah, five years.  The other guys I dated were all guys I talked myself into dating.  Didn't see any of them and think, "Wow, he's cute."  Smart Guy isn't my typical "type."  He's got light hair and more than 4% body fat!

Smart Guy is pretty cool (remember, we just met), but I suspect part of me being interested in him has something to do with the fact that I am more open to meeting someone now.  Yeah, many of my posts talk about how hard it is to find a guy in SF, blah blah.  I think a lot of it had to do with me not really wanting to find a guy.  After I got back from a short vacation in June, I felt sorta ready (hey, that's a huge step)!

I got a little crazy and NO I didn't tell him! I did the whole, "How many other girls is he talking to?" thing in my head. It's a valid question; a question I would NEVER ask him. Then I remembered all the conversations I have had with SF guys and was reminded of something HUGE - low supply and high demand of SF girls. I am covered.  Also, not to be a d*ck, but I am not exactly at the bottom of the barrel here.

I know I should going out with more guys. I don't think I'm able to do this because I feel bad for the new guy (the guy that is not already the favorite - yeah, Smart Guy is the favorite).  A new guy could be really psyched, but I just wouldn't be into it; he wouldn't even know why, but it could bother him.  See, I do have compassion, I just don't want you to know.  Besides, no one new I would want to go out with has contacted me.

Not Always Accurate

Went out with another OkCupid guy that was 90%+.  Trying to figure out if the match % actually means something.  The guy was smart, pretty funny, well spoken, nice, etc.  However, I was totally not attracted to him.  He looks a bit older than early 30s.

We did get along well.  Yeah, the sample size is small, but 90%+ tend to have the personality traits I am looking for.

Pleasantly Surprised

I was pleasantly surprised.  D*ck on the phone guy was not a d*ck in person.  How nice!  He's really sweet.  I think he might actually be that way (not d*ck).  He was a gentleman, not pervo *sshle (really can't handle another one of these).  We had dinner and watched a movie.  There was no funny business.  I think I'll see him again.  He gets a name!  We'll call him Smart Guy.

D*ck

So, I was on the phone with this guy I met on OkCupid.  We are a match, 90%+ match.  He sounded like a d*ck on the phone.  Does that mean OkCupid thinks I am a d*ck?  I couldn't wait for the call to end.  I think he was angry with me.  He could have been nervous?  His emails were always very pleasant.

Fine, I am not good with the phone either, but really???

Just Call Me A Puma

I heard ladies in their 40s going after younger men are "cougars" and ladies in their 30s going after younger men are "pumas."  I am not a puma yet, but these opportunities keep presenting themselves!  Met a very cute, tall, well spoken, blond, blue eyed 22 year old today.  He turned a five minute conversation into 35 minutes.  22 is way too young, but he was adorable.

Is Your City Making You Single?

Saw this article, "Is Your City Making You Single" and HAD to read it.  It mostly talked about DC, New York, and Los Angeles.  I guess I shouldn't look into moving to any of those cities.  The article said NY match.com users make up 8% of all of match.com users.  That's why I know so many people in NY who met their spouses on match!  The supply of girls is also pretty high in NY, also not a good thing because "everyone is looking out for someone for better."  That might apply to many other cities, but in NY, there actually is "better;" not the case with San Francisco.

DC is said to be quite good for coupling up, but it the reviews weren't exactly spectacular.  Why wasn't SF discussed?  Haha.  I said the same thing about SF (it's top ranked for singles, but that's probably a bad thing) years ago.

Dating and "proximity" are huge.  The term "geographically undesirable" didn't just sprout up for no good reason.  San Francisco is kinda spread out and when you factor in Silicon Valley, it's even more expansive.  I know people in the Mission who don't want to date people in Pacific Heights or the Marina because it's too far.  That can't be the only reason, the Mission is known for hipsters while Pac Heights is known for yuppies, and the Marina is known for frat/sorority life.  And, what to do about Silicon Valley?  I've been told that's where "all the guys are," but it's also 40 or so miles away.  Going to the Mission from Pac Heights doesn't sound so bad anymore, does it?  Well, that's if you like hipsters...

I actually think it boils down to if you meet the right person, geography will not matter (not talking about cross country here).  The issue is how to meet the right person.