tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post2093223193223905922..comments2023-09-15T10:39:06.518-07:00Comments on Adventuresaurus Girl Dating and Relationship Blog: Coffee Meets Bagel First DateAdventuresaurus Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-49041290339240466282014-01-15T15:33:48.922-08:002014-01-15T15:33:48.922-08:00Hi and welcome! Glad you enjoy!Hi and welcome! Glad you enjoy!Adventuresaurus Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-46941534828732646592014-01-15T11:53:59.954-08:002014-01-15T11:53:59.954-08:00Hi randomly found your blog and it's really hi...Hi randomly found your blog and it's really hilarious, seeing all the same in NYC!Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15416093848275334987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-55946923761330952202014-01-12T14:10:07.261-08:002014-01-12T14:10:07.261-08:00Very good idea!Very good idea!Adventuresaurus Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-3274994554361021992014-01-12T14:07:48.570-08:002014-01-12T14:07:48.570-08:00Yeah, I'm up to three mutual matches that have...Yeah, I'm up to three mutual matches that haven't reached out. Glad about this because that just means they aren't interested enough and I save myself some timeAdventuresaurus Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-46764041552416945202014-01-12T12:11:56.046-08:002014-01-12T12:11:56.046-08:00AG, I've had 2 recent mutual matches on Coffee...AG, I've had 2 recent mutual matches on Coffee Meets Bagel and the guys never got in touch. It's hit or miss. My main complaint is not being able to filter matches by height. Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-1801806508338197092014-01-12T12:11:00.974-08:002014-01-12T12:11:00.974-08:00J, I've actually had guys ask me for the phone...J, I've actually had guys ask me for the phone date first. One even said "I like to have a phone call first and then determine if a date makes sense." It felt like an interview.<br /><br />That said, the phone call would save a lot of time if you ended up having zero conversational chemistry!Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-36059265523305763222014-01-10T21:37:00.667-08:002014-01-10T21:37:00.667-08:00I like texting before meeting up. I'd even ha...I like texting before meeting up. I'd even have a phone conversation as a primer but I'd still want to meet up before making any decisions on whether to proceed. I guess I have a different point of view being a guy. I really don't have to worry about lecherous or douche bag women.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17775823790154569529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-87880540942558541132014-01-10T21:03:15.763-08:002014-01-10T21:03:15.763-08:00I also like to talk on the phone, text back and fo...I also like to talk on the phone, text back and forth, get a general feel for the guy before meeting up. It saves time. Many of them prove they are only after ass through their texts. Ashanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-18711570819957918552014-01-10T19:52:06.475-08:002014-01-10T19:52:06.475-08:00When I was on Match and OKCupid, I insisted on a p...When I was on Match and OKCupid, I insisted on a phone call first. I weeded out so many perverts and otherwise incompatible men and saved so much time!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-68486887221447606372014-01-10T19:21:56.238-08:002014-01-10T19:21:56.238-08:00I guess I can agree with those reasons. I feel my ...I guess I can agree with those reasons. I feel my circumstance was a bit unfair though. It's far too hard to have an honest conversation with a stranger on the phone. You have no idea what their personality is like and you have no way to key off of body language or facial expressions. When you are talking with friends or family, you already know who they are and how they react. You don't need those signals.<br /><br />To be honest though, from talking to her I did have my doubts. But I'd never make that judgement call until I got a chance to talk to her face to face. Sometimes you just can't avoid those awkward dates. You just have to take your lumps and move on. But I feel that online dating is running away from that concept.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17775823790154569529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-22736117761748544572014-01-10T19:21:23.034-08:002014-01-10T19:21:23.034-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17775823790154569529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-7768880827559008502014-01-10T17:26:08.727-08:002014-01-10T17:26:08.727-08:00No problem, J! It's funny you bring this up b...No problem, J! It's funny you bring this up because I actually thought I should do phone calls before a first date because, I've had issues where a guy was very pleasant in his emails, then totally argumentative in person. I also had an issue where a guy had great English in emails, but I could barely understand a word out of my mouth in person.<br /><br />The phone screener is good because you can grasp their command of the English language, hear their voice (voice can be a turn off), and get a general sense of their demeanorAdventuresaurus Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-19888087383541797362014-01-10T17:03:24.494-08:002014-01-10T17:03:24.494-08:00The whole "liking" or "rating"...The whole "liking" or "rating" thing in online dating is kind of weird. I think a lot of people don't use it very honestly....or at least they use it very cavalierly but then freak out when someone responds to them.<br /><br />So I kind of want to hijack your post quick to pose a question to you and your audience.<br /><br />Have any of you ladies ever set up a phone date with a guy? Like a guy asks you out on a face to face date, but you instead suggest a phone call first?<br /><br />I ask this because I asked a girl out on OKCupid after a few email exchanges and she suggested we chat on the phone first. I thought it was odd but I agreed. I sent my number along and suggested that I was free after 7pm on a certain day. She then didn't respond until that day saying that she would call but never giving me an exact (or even a round-a-bout) time. I then proceeded to wait for her call. It was weird because it made me a bit antsy and I couldn't do anything but futz around with my iPad. She finally calls around 9pm at which time I'm pretty annoyed. But one we start talking I loosen back up.<br /><br />We talked for a little over an hour and I thought it went OK. Nothing crazy was said, it was classic first date banter. She signals the end of the phone call by saying how she enjoyed the chat. At this point I was prepared to ask for the in person date. But then she pulls the "Unfortunately I don't think we're dating material". I was kind of flabbergasted and all I could do was dumbly agree, say goodbye, and then hang up. Today I've been kicking myself in the ass for not saying anything more in my defense. How can anyone get that from a phone call? I mean, if what I say in my emails and on my profile is good enough for you to engage, why not meet up and see if there is any chemistry?<br /><br />Needless to say this is an all too typical pattern I've run into with online dating. Ridiculous standards, hypocrisy (she boasted how open minded she was on her profile), and quickness to push the eject button. I made the decision today to close my profile and take a real break from online dating. But I'm just curious as to thoughts on this story.<br /><br />Again, sorry for hijacking your original post.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17775823790154569529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-2162543339456580872014-01-10T15:53:55.623-08:002014-01-10T15:53:55.623-08:00No chemistry and he looks like he would weigh 100 ...No chemistry and he looks like he would weigh 100 pounds soaking wetAdventuresaurus Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697183583983292564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8865927790050521161.post-9060562688805585412014-01-10T12:46:26.279-08:002014-01-10T12:46:26.279-08:00Was there no chemistry? A good date is awesome wea...Was there no chemistry? A good date is awesome weather it works out or not!!Just me: A beautiful disaster!https://www.blogger.com/profile/07205379375446881604noreply@blogger.com