Friday, August 30, 2013

When You Aren't Looking

So many people talk about finding someone when you aren't looking.  I don't think I've really been actively looking, but it has definitely been spinning around in the back of my mind.  I think I've come to terms with, if I don't find someone, fine, so be it.  Of course, I still believe finding someone is possible, but it has really set in that I'll be more than fine if I don't. 

Also, what's with the big rush?  Any guy who believes girls have a "shelf life" should be taken out and shot.  I am on the fence about kids, so that really isn't a factor.  So, who's to say I won't find the right guy much later in life?

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Need New Friends

Yes, I really need new friends. I was strong armed into going to a dinner thing last night. I went kicking and screaming because I knew The Brain would be there and I didn't want to deal with him. (I go to fewer than 10% of the events I am invited to because I know he will be there...the 10% - someone's birthday, mutual friend in town, etc). Last night I should've faked the flu like I wanted to.

The Brain wasn't able to look me in the eye for the first two hours (until sufficiently socially lubricated) and spent 90% of the evening saying things to get a reaction out of me.  Of course, I didn't give him one. It was a lot of chest beating about how rich he is, how he still gets sh*t faced as often as he can, and how girls (past and present) want him. Instead of getting a rise out of me, he reminded me of all the reasons why we are finito; I should thank him. 

Friday, August 23, 2013


Science was never my thing, but I just heard about how biochemistry could be very important in terms of finding a match.  Basically brain waves search for a good DNA match (so, someone with different enough genes) when you are within three feet of someone. When you meet an optimal match, that biochemical reaction is what people feel as a "spark."

I need to think about this some more. 

Tuesday, August 20, 2013


A good friend of mine was in town over the weekend. We were joking around about getting old...being tired, not being able to deal with loud bars, needing naps, etc. Where can I meet a guy that doesn't frequent the nightclub scene and enjoys going to bed before 1am? Extra points if he drinks fewer than four times a month, yes, I said month. 

Thursday, August 15, 2013

I Don't Know

Went out with some friends tonight.  A married couple really wanted me to meet their single guy friend.  He was with coworkers, so we didn't talk much.  I don't know.  He seemed intelligent and nice, but I am not wowed.  I am also not saying a definite, "No."

Monday, August 12, 2013

You Look Familiar

Went out with some friends over the weekend. Noticed a guy who kept looking over at me. He looked really familiar, but I couldn't place him until now. He's the guy I met up with for coffee a year ago? The one I keep ignoring. The one that tried to make out with me within five minutes of meeting.

He's a white guy, possibly with an Asian fetish since he was with a lot of Asians...

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Good Points

I was skimming a book at a friend's over the weekend. It was a relationship book. The parts I read said (that is the parts I remember):
  • Have realistic expectations
  • Be compassionate
  • Be real
  • Don't tell them they are wrong
  • Don't obnoxiously point out faults
  • Don't boast
  • Don't let issues fester

The Brain has definitely done all the "Dont's." 

Saturday, August 3, 2013


That guy I went out with last week texted me "Hi!"  I am not responding.  If he asks me out again, I will reply with the standard, "You are cool, but I don't see a romantic future" type of message.

Thursday, August 1, 2013


That guy from the party last week asked me out for dinner today. I declined, very busy weekend.